About The Boy - an Update
I've put off writing about this, because I'm just fucking confused.
After spending considerable effort in trying to get me to notice him,
the Boy seems to have gone under cover. In fact, he can't look at me
when he talks to me, and he goes out of his way not to have to talk to
me. When it can't be avoided, he stutters, looks at the ground, and
speaks reallyreallyfast.
We had all kinds of plans for December, and yes, I know December just
started yesterday, but I'm thinking those plans are out the window.
The Code Orange alert was well-sounded. He's not a straight-forward
person and I don't do games.
Or do I?
Tired of his New and Improved Bashfulness (or Avoidance Maneuvers), I
quit trying to make conversation. Last night though, I worked late, and
when I climbed up to my EL platform, guess who was standing in the
shelter? And what did I do? I kept walking as if I hadn't seen him. He
wasn't looking at me, and I doubt he knew I was there. I just wasn't in
the mood for stuttering attempts at conversation. That would have been
fine, I guess. However, until the train came (we ended up in different
cars, by design, I kept looking out of the corner of my eye to see if he
was looking at me... which he wasn't.
posted by Michelle @ 10:01 AM
2 Comments
2 Comments:
hmmm. he could be playing games or he could just be scared out of his mind now that the moment is upon him. hard to tell. i'd let him do the work... remember -- he's not the only crushable boy out there!
Erika
No no no no no! Boy is not playing games, boy is nervous, which is cute, and should be sign that he's not a "playa". If it were games, he'd be stringing you along with no payoff. Now while I don't advocate throwing yourself at him, don't blow him off, either, unless you don't like him at all. Sadly, I do this all the time -- someone I'm interested in, when it starts to look like it's reciprocated, I cut and run -- problem with eye contact, speaking fast etc. It has nothing to do with not liking the person and stringing him along, it's FEAR, pure and simple. And my fear, not fear of the other person. Sadly, it registers to the other person as extreme discomfort based in disinterest. My psyche requires a LOT of patience on the part of the other person.
So if you like him, stand next to him at the el station, and talk about whatever it is you normally talk about. Be patient, but be a girl anyway and make him make the first move. It's the one advantage we have as females, we don't have to make that awkward first move. To be honest, I don't know how the boys do it, and I give them credit. But he really sounds scared, and scared based in something positive.
Sermon finished.
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